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Happiness

Nov 28th, 2021

What is happiness? When you attain peace of mind, is happiness. Defination of happiness depends upon our own self. For some money is happiness, for some good relations is happiness. Enjoying each other’s company is happiness.

Going on a vacation makes everyone happy. It uplifts our mood and makes us more energetic. Some kind people loves to do generous or social work like feeding hungry, providing essential things to needy. These people find happiness in making others happy. We can define happiness according to our terms. People copy each other to find happiness but forget that happiness is an inside job. You can’t find happiness by just coping others. When you are not 100 percent satisfied with what you are doing, you won’t be happy with the things you are doing and with yourself too.

Self-love is happiness. When you love yourself without bothering about, what others think about you, you start feeling good about yourself. Money can’t buy happiness. If it could have, then world’s richest people should have been the most happiest people on the earth. But it is not so. Money can buy you temporary happiness, but for happiness within yourself and peace of mind it’s important that how you react to a situation. If someone provoke you, do you get angry or calmly tackle the situation?

It’s very easy to get angry, difficult to stay calm. Try to do the difficult thing. When we complete difficult task, it makes us confident. Do you know anger is root cause of so many diseases? If not, just google it and you will be surprised to see the result of your search. Anger is major obstacle in path of reaching goal of happiness.

Create happiness around yourself. Be with people who inspire you, who want good for you, who love you for who you are. Grow, learn, admire. We mothers when get so busy in our family and children, forget about our hobbies, passion, liking. When asked about my passion by one of close friend, I paused and keep on thinking, what is my passion? After so long, I discovered that, it’s writing what makes me happy. And here I am.

We earn living to fulfill our needs and to enjoy life, but in the process we stop thinking about what are the things or reasons which makes us happy. We just go with the flow, if someone has visited a famous mall or enjoyed movie in any theater and posted happy moments on social media, we believe that, it is called happiness. I have seen families happy with limited income, still they are enjoying life. With more income and spending, we complicate our life’s.

How many people feel happy when they think of you? is the question. If your presence and absence matter to someone, it’s happiness. You have understanding soulmate, is happiness. Our happiness multiplies when we share it with others. Bow down in front of God and give all your worries to him. He will never disappoint you, but you have to trust God first. Keeping a pet and spending time with him makes every animal lover happy. What we give our pet is love and in return they also reciprocate and love us. The language of love is understood by even animals.

Have you seen plants grow well if we play music near them. Music is food for soul. It makes plants happy and they grow well. When you get support of your loved ones you feel happy. Finding happiness in small things is the key.

‘Happy are the givers.’

Ramneet Kaur
Teenager’s Parent Challenges

Nov 5th, 2021

Being a teenager’s Parent, I can understand the challenges faced by other parents. It’s not only challanging phase for child but also for parents too. The child is confused at times, we must provide them support. They have develop their opinion about things. We must listen to them and discuss. They become angry, impatient.

It’s very crucial year in life of a child. We as parents have to be calm in each and every situation and give them ample space to grow and live independently. It’s our duty and responsibility to act wisely and with giving space must have a watch on their activities, how much time child spend on mobile and what he is watching or doing. To know this there are two options, one is to spy on them or win their trust and they will tell you everything. And they will feel confident that they have someone to talk.

Child will be thankful for understanding him/her in these crucial years. We should avoid scolding them or get angry instead the best option is to give them work like, cleaning their room, helping in household work etc. By this they will though do the work as punishment but they will learn various things which will help them may be in future to live independently. Every child is special and have unique qualities never ever compare your child with other child. In this competitive world they are already struggling to make their mark and if we also starting comparing them with others will make the situation more worse.

The challanges which I just started being through makes me write about this topic. We have to act normally but still should understand the seriousness of this phase. Try to make your child happy, cook their favorite food, help them develop any hobby if they still don’t have, encourage them to focus on their studies and passion too. The more busy they will be, the more they will forget about conflict within themselves.

Bullying is another problem faced by child in teenage. Let’s always support our child and know what he/ she feels when someone bully them. Tell them how to control their anger or how to approach elders about the situation. Things become vunarable when child don’t know how to react. Parents as mentors lighten up their child’s path. It becomes easy to make your teenager happy when you appreciate them, be a friend to them, give importance to their choices and not force them anything.

Discussing problems is worrisome and time-consuming too, rather we must focus on solutions. The approach and reaction to the same situation might be different and depends upon person to person. Like one parent might argue with their teenager when he or she gets angry on the other hand another parent calmly manage the situation. We must be in touch with other parents, so that we are get assured that we are not alone in this.

Always be updated, be it technology, knowlegde, current affairs etc so that you can talk on any and every topic,it will also boost your confidence. Always respect child’s opinion, if you will then child will always tell you everything, small or big. Obesity and academic performance are other important things to focus on. Due to obesity the teenage child can be bullied by other child, physical appearance could be compared and commented on. The best, important and vital thing which you can do for your child in this phase is being a friend to them on the same time control them being a parent. This dual role might be challenging for parents but if you stay calm and tactfully handle everything, your child will tell you as a friend and will respect you as their parents.

So, happy teen birthday to your teenage child and you. Welcome to new world of happiness, which your child is ready to enter. All the best, stay positive and remember ‘child never learn from what you say, but what you do’.

Ramneet Kaur
Health of a child is more important than academic grades. Do you Agree?

Sep 25th, 2021

Every child in the world is stressed, to be at home due to pandemic and online studies makes it more stressful. We as parents go to departmental stores or for grocery shopping but children are more bound to be at home 24/7. Children miss their school, where schools are not open, they miss their friends and teachers, the offline classes, which they were taking before pandemic, not only make them disciplined and active, but children were not getting so tired earlier, as compared to today, in online classes.

My son take 3 classes daily, as compared to 7 classes when he used to go to school. His breakfast time is not fixed, his eyes gets tired and overall health is being deteriorating. Not only children feeling stressed due to studies, but all the time sitting indoor making them obese. Children are deprived of enjoying the growing years which they might be enjoying in offline school.

Their mental and emotional well being is much important than just grades or studies. Studies will give them knowledge but, what if they will not be capable to use it in appropriate manner. Just mugging up things and all the time thinking about grades is not the solution, as children have to reconnect with friends and teachers. They learn a lot when they commute to school and back home. Which a teacher can’t teach them. The insecurities about this pandemic has made us so changed, then how can we expect that children should behave in the same manner, which they use to before pandemic. Children do develop sense of insecurities about future.

There are activities introduced on daily basis, new activities are making them though, more occupied but, it’s easy to just post an assignment and that too on very short notice, for children to do it,but is only making children more stressed and in pressure. The psychology of children needs to be area of concern right now for parents, teachers and country as a whole too. One day it’s announced,the vaccine for children are out ,will be provided by sep 2021. Then, there is no news about it. How our children are impacted by it is, they are given false hope, that children will get vaccinated soon and will go to school.

We as parent are providing them with extra curricular activities at home. It’s duty of education system that if the parents are paying full fee to schools and schools are providing 50% less classes then they should work on emotional and mental health of children too. The amount which we as parents are spending on extra curricular activities are financial burden on us too. Education policies should be made in favour of children, their overall well being is much important than just grades.

It’s a topic to be discussed and do something globally for, for all the children in the world. Child vaccination and then opening of schools should be on top priority list of education policy makers worldwide.

Ramneet Kaur
Parenting

Aug 12th, 2021

Recently, I attended a zoom meeting, where all the parents have joined and they were concerned about the well being of children at the time of pandemic. What all problems children are facing, how they are deprived of physical activities, staying at home all the time etc.

Parenting is an ongoing process. You cannot be free from the stress of how your child will perform in exams to his health and other things which affects child’s upbringing. Every parent is responsible for how his child is being brought up. The role of parents is too crucial and vital in building character of a child. Every parent gives their 100% for their child.

After talking to all the parents I came to know that we all are sailing in same ship. The diffence is that some children have adjusted in online class system on the other hand some are still struggling. We parents talk to each other on regular basis, it not only gives us confidence, but also relive stress. Parenting involves a lot of things, as a parent we have to watch over, what our child is doing in free time, what type of friends they have, what kind of things they are watching on TV, their health, acedemic performance, hobbies, and so on.

Parents have to face child’s tantrums at times and how to deal with it in appropriate manner is all about parenting. Parenting role is the most challenging one because, children not learn from what you teach or preach them, they learn from parent’s actions and reactions to a certain situation. They learn from how their parents treat others, how their parents meet financial challenges and so on.

So, lets be a role model for our child, because he is 24 hours watching us.

Ramneet Kaur

Tag: parenting

Happiness

Teenager’s Parent Challenges

Health of a child is more important than academic grades. Do you Agree?

Parenting